Just one of those weeks

Have you ever had one of those weeks that you've thought "Are you fucking kidding me?" 

Monday my boss was pissy with me and I could tell. I had taken time off the week prior during harvest and that wasn't such a good idea. Especially since it was to take time off for my side business and I went to the beautiful Orange County. We had to have one of those, "Come to Jesus" talks and then everything was good. 

Tuesday, I decide since my husband was moving farm equipment, I would  do the grilling on the BBQ. 

Okay, so I have never claimed to be a great Grill Master. I have always started the propane grill and shut the lid to get all the little crunchie's off. Well apparently that is not what you should do. As I am helping my daughter with homework I notice black smoke coming from the backyard. I go out there and sure as shit the grill is on fire. Black smoke is billowing up into the air, flames are shooting out of the BBQ. I stand there for a moment and think,"Fuck! What do I do?" They say for a grease fire don't use water so I am standing there like a dumb ass debating if I should get the hose. I know it isn't a grease fire so the water should be okay. Still not sure I call my husband. He is telling me get the hose and move the BBQ from house. Um, well, it is too hot to move....this mother fucker is on fire! I did manage to turn the burners off, but those little crunchie's on the bottom were on fire big time!  I grab the hose and start dosing the BBQ. By the time my husband gets home the fire is out, but where he just painted the house last week will need fresh paint. The paint on the BBQ is curled and messed up too. 

Wednesday went okay nothing major there. Just a typical hump day. However it would have been better if I had gotten humped! Lmfao

Thursday.... During harvest time one of my job duties is to take pictures of the team members while they do their specific job. Before I head out to the ranch I start to feel nauseous, a little shaky, and just not to great. I have a driver to take me around the ranch because I would get lost if I drove around out there by myself.  As we are driving I am thinking I am going to have to yell "Alto" because I am going to lose the 1/2 of turkey sandwich I had eaten before I went out there. We end up getting finished when the guys start lunch and I am thankful. Done for the day. I get in my car to head back to the office. Reverse. BOOM! I hit a mother fucking power pole! Seriously!!! How fucking embarrassing. At this point I am out. I feel sick and I now have fucked up my drivers side rear whatever it is called. 

I start to head home. On the drive home I have to pull over because I get sick. Okay so it is either the turkey sandwich, I am like a little kid and got car sick, or I have West Nile Virus! 

Later that night I text my boss, "How's the pole?" His reply,"It is still crying!" Oh good! He is finding this funny! I am not getting fired! 

Here we are now at Friday morning. I am laying here in bed writing this with a cup of coffee thinking how it all could be so much worse. The house could have burned down and we could be homeless. No bright side of the coin on the backing into the pole. That just blows! My car is now at the auto body place and I have to pay $1,000 deductible which my husband says I will have to pay back in sexual favors. (Not hurting my feelings there) 

So I am thanking  you for letting me whine about my week. May you have a safe and fun weekend & have a cocktail this evening,"It is Friday Bitches! " 

Bullying: How do we change it?

Today's world and bullying has gotten so out of hand. It is almost scary to send your kids to school knowing there are bullies out there. 

There are four types of bullying that are common today: 

Verbal Bullying : Name calling, threatening, and making comments about someone else's attributes. 

Physical Bullying: Hitting, punching, slapping, touching someone else in inappropriate ways.

Relational Bullying: Causing harm through damage to one's relationship or social status.

Cyber Bullying: Takes place with the use of electronic devises. Cyber bullying can take place 24/7 through messages, posting pictures on social media sites. 

We've all been bullied at some point in life.  When my son was in elementary school he kept complaining about a kid who would call him names, but when I was around them this kid was so respectful to me I thought my son was overreacting. My son complained for a few years. Once in  junior high the bully would bump into my son, make comments, and over all was harassing my son on a daily basis. One day they were playing football at school and my son finally had had it. They got into an altercation and it ended up in a suspension. No one was badly hurt, but the bully stopped picking on my son. Word in our small town had spread about the fight. I received messages on Facebook and texts from other parents how the bully had also tormented their children.

Just last week I had heard of a girl at a local high school who had a similar circumstance as my son and the dad taught his daughter how to fight. She and the bully got into a physical altercation and the bully ended up getting her ass kicked. The victim of the bullying ended up going to juvenile hall. No one wins here. We have to change how things are happening. 

In order for bullying to stop where do we start as a society to help the bully change his/her behavior? The boy that was bullying my son came from a broken home. Not much of a father figure in his life. Not a lot of money. In my opinion he is angry and was taking his aggressions out on the other children in school because he could get away with it. It made him feel powerful where in his family life he was probably not. 

We need to communicate. 

Communication is key for most everything in life. For there to be resolution we have to talk about bullying with our children. Make sure they know that is isn't okay to tyrannize others. We need to talk to our children's teachers, principals, and other administration and the bully has to know there will be consequences for their actions. 

If your child is a victim of bullying for several years you may want to seek counseling. Being bullied is abuse and can wreak havoc on the mental psyche. Don't just dismiss bullying as kids will be kids because in this day and age kids see and experience far more than they did 50 years ago. 

The point I am trying to make here is that we as a society have to change the way we are handling bullying. We need to communicate with our children and teach them that if they see bullying to speak up. They do not have to call the bully out, but they can report it to school administration . If bullies aren't stopped sadly they may grow up to be bullies in the work place, abusive partners, or even worse mentally or physically abusive to their own children.  

Staying Home-Me

Have you ever lost yourself? I mean truly lost sight of you. I think all women as wives and mothers we do at one point lose sight of ourselves. We are so busy trying to do things the right way. We want to be a good wife and mother. We want to get it perfect. We don't want to fail at the two most important jobs a woman can have a wife and mother. 

We waited to have children or I should say I waited to have children because I was into my own self-care. We married at 23 and my husband was ready then for children. I was not. Then at 25 the pressure seemed to be on from everyone and I still wasn't  ready. Finally at 27 I became pregnant. 

We decided I would leave my job and become a stay at home mom. I loved being a stay at home mom. However,  I stopped getting ready everyday, didn't wear nice clothes because I would get spit up on or with a boy there were times I would actually get ready and wouldn't you know it I got pee'd on. 

My two best friends stayed home too, but one lives in North Carolina and the other one had kids older than mine so getting together with them was not much of an option. I felt a little alone in this I gave up my career to stay home and not communicate with other grown-ups. 

I remember trying to explain it to my husband. He still was able to talk with adults daily. He got out of the house. I didn't.

I finally decided to join the Mom's Club a national organization for mom's and their children with playgroups, park days, field trips, mom's night out, etc. 

The first playgroup I was assigned (it is based on your child's age) I remember thinking, are you fucking kidding me! I had NOTHING in common with these women. One was a vegan, who looked at me in disgusted when she found out I didn't use cloth diapers. Playgroup was at her house that day and she was talking about how the previous playdate someone made jello and her daughter can't eat that it has gelatin which is animal based. Oh fuck! Really! This isn't going to work for me. I needed real people who were still normal. Luckily the playgroup split apart and I ended up with 5 ladies and their children that thankfully I could finally spend time with that I didn't feel judged for not using cloth diapers and my snack choice on play date day was alright. We didn't talk though about the real stuff. It was all on the surface.  

Three years later we had our daughter. I was still in Mom's Club and also in another one at a local church. I did always pull myself together appearance wise, my children always looked adorable because if they didn't wasn't I a shitty mom, but I always felt like something was missing; the real me. 

I stayed home for ten years. The best ten years of my life I do believe that. I was very lucky that we could live on one income for that long. 

I remember  getting me back though finally about 5 years ago. While I stayed home. Both kids were now in school. I had time to myself and I began to soul search. Spend time with me.  It is hilarious because my one best friend who has children older than mine tells me now, "I hated when you were in that Mom's Club phase." The reason she hated it is because for years I was trying to be perfect. My house was always clean, my kids were perfectly dressed even if I wasn't. I was pleasing my husband by letting him do his thing while I stayed home trying to be the perfect wife and mother. 

Once I started to have alone time slowly the old parts of me started to come back. The crazy, opinionated, I don't give a shit girl slowly started coming back. I didn't realize how much I had missed "Me". I have had some people say I am having a mid-life crisis even. It isn't that. They just met me when I was trying to be "perfect". I am finally me again and I am very happy to be here. 

Lol

Am I the only person that feels like a lol (laugh out loud) response to a text is really translated as I don't care or yes I looked, but wasn't impressed. Is it really a blow off text? Is it an I want to respond at least, but I could have lived without reading or seeing that? 

Now a LMAO (laughing my ass off) I think gets a giggle and a Rotflmfao (rolling on the floor laughing my fucking ass off) was truly a belly laugh out loud moment. 

Personally I would much rather text than talk on the phone. I try not to do a lol response, but sometimes I am busy and yes I do reply with it. 

So my question to you this morning is how do you feel about lol? I believe it is over used and sometimes not even the correct response. 

Have a great day and as my niece Aubree (whom is four) would say, "Peace Out Bitches!" 

That Guy

I'm one of those personalities that definitely people either love or hate me, but most people love me, but there's those few select (we'll call them prudes or stuffy fucks) that do not like me because my personality is well a bit over-the-top.  I don't sugarcoat shit. I'm opinionated and I don't care if you like my opinion or not because it's my opinion. I will tell you like it is. Basically what I'm thinking in my head generally comes out my mouth.   Here's just a current example of one of those moments where what I'm thinking comes out of my mouth. So I'm at this fundraiser and I'm sitting with three guy friends or I should say two of them are friends this one I don't even know I've never even met him, but he's that guy in town that's going through a divorce all the single women think he is the catch of the day. I am sitting conversing with the guys (whom are all single guys in town) I am not interested in not one. I am just that female whom looks girly, but I have the mentality and a mouth of a man. Anyway, back to the story at hand.  They are all eating their fajita dinner and I am chatting. All of a sudden single guy whom let me paint a little picture of him for you; dresses nice, hair is perfectly in place, has perfect Chiclet teeth. Probably a catch if you're into that sort of guy. Cute if you're into that, but not my type at all. Too "perfect" something has got to be wrong under the surface or little dick. 

Ok,ok, back to it....So as we are sitting there all of a sudden "perfect looking single guy" starts licking , no sucking each one of his fingers and then his thumb. Instantly what comes out of my mouth is "what are you doing?"he looks at me in shock and he says," what?" I then replied, "You're licking each finger and then your thumb in public at fundraiser, use your napkin! WHO THE FUCK DOES THAT!? If you're eating ribs I kinda get it, but at a fundraiser dinner of fajitas, beans, rice. WTF???? 

After that needless to say the guy didn't say much to me. Did I make a lasting impression? You bet your ass I did! Lol and that in a nutshell is a little bit of me.